Wednesday, February 6, 2008

The Acomodador - The Point of Giving Up

I am currently reading the Paulo Coelho book, The Zahir. I must say I was never a huge fan of the Brazilian author, however, I have recently developed a newly-found interest in some of his books.

There are several issues the book discusses, and last night, one of them kind of stayed with me. It was a chapter about freeing ourselves from deterring events in our lives, to continue our quests in achieving our goals.

The book discusses the 'Acomodador' or giving-up point, which Coelho quotes its description from the book 'Magical Practices in North Mexico' as follows:

"there is always an event in our lives that is responsible for us failing to progress: a trauma, a particularly bitter defeat, a disappointment in love, even a victory that we did not quite understand, can make cowards of us and prevent us from moving on."

This happens to all of us whether we're trying to learn a new instrument, language or sport, or whether we're pursuing a dream and lose our path along the way. There's always a time where our progress starts slowing down and a point that discourages us from continuing what we started. Think of how many projects or tasks you've started, and failed to complete? How many sports you started learning and stopped for some reason or another?

According to the book, to avoid such discouragement "[one] must free himself from the giving-up point and, to do so, he must review his whole life and find out where it occurred".

Obviously the ability to power through the giving-up points in our lives, makes the difference between those who achieve their goals and those who don't. However one might argue that if a single event can deter us from reaching a goal, then maybe it wasn't the right goal in the first place. I believe this is the argument of the weak. I myself have trodded down similar paths of thinking, but the truth is, there is always a reason behind our choice to quit what we're doing or fail to progress in a task or quest, and it is rarely because we discovered that our dream isn't quite what we wanted. We just convince ourselves that we don't want it anymore, or that it isn't feasible or whatever lame rationalization we can come up with.

Once we analyze our past and identify that event or the acomodador that halted our progress, we should put all our effort into freeing ourselves from that moment whether by saying it out loud to someone else, writing about it, letting go of it, or finding a solution for it, so that we can continue the pursuit of our dreams.

May God help us all identify our acomodadors and have the strength to go beyond them.


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